Self Awareness

Question: How can I challenge my assumptions, knowing my perspective is shaped by my experience?

My Story:

Self-awareness is more than a personal trait for Kellie; it’s a daily practice that defines how she moves through the world as a mother, wife, therapist, friend, and leader. She holds herself to incredibly high standards, always thinking deeply about how she shows up, not just for herself, but for the people around her. That deep level of reflection can be both a blessing and a challenge, because when you're that tuned in to your own behavior, it's easy to expect the same from everyone else.

Working as a therapist with incarcerated individuals, Kellie’s Self-awareness has become one of her most valuable tools. In an environment where trust is hard-earned and tensions run high, she has learned that every small decision —whether it's what she says, how she says it, or what she wears —can impact the connection she builds.

She’s always been intentional about how she presents herself. With Self-awareness as a top strength, Kellie is mindful about the way she takes up space, specifically in her role as a therapist in the prison setting. Early on, she realized that conservative clothing, body language, and nonverbal communication have a significant impact on the way in which she would be received by a vulnerable population.  She wanted to look relatable, approachable, and also gain respect from those in her presence. Attention to detail made all the difference. It signaled to the individuals she worked with that she wasn't there to perform or impress but rather to hold space and show up for them. This became a significant part of her identity and something she felt dedicated to passing on to her staff as well.

Self-awareness also helped Kellie survive the emotional weight of the work. Being a therapist in a prison can feel like being a human punching bag at times. Being on the receiving end of pain and anger being thrown her way could easily become overwhelming, but she knew it wasn’t about her. Her self-awareness strength allowed her to understand that she was simply a safe place for people to unload what they were carrying. It helped her not take things personally, to stay grounded, and to keep showing up authentically, day after day.

Ultimately, Self-awareness has enabled her to become a more effective therapist, a more intentional mother, a more present person, and someone who can hold space for others, even in their darkest moments.

“My self-awareness has helped me stay grounded and present, even when I’m absorbing other people’s pain. Working with marginalized communities, it’s allowed me to remain a beacon of light, even in the face of anger, frustration, and sadness that was never mine to carry.”

- Kellie